Parenting Sui Generis

(Of Its Own Kind; Unique)

To read more about our parenting series and why this title has a foreign phrase included, you may click on the links at the bottom of this article.  You won't want to miss the introduction to this series for sure!

I am "pleased as punch" to have a very honored guest writing for me today.  My dear husband and best friend of 20 years has agreed to share from his heart.  We have shared many things together as all couples do, but this parenting journey is one of our most favorite things that we have done together.  It is a blessing to be on the same page for this entire journey and are grateful to have children who love the Lord, want to serve Him, and are down right good kids. We give God all of the glory and hope you find encouragement from our words of experience. Without further adieu....words of wisdom from my husband, Steve French:

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Did you know the male Emperor penguin cares for its offspring during the entire incubation stage keeping the egg on top of his feet?  The males stand there approximately 65 days, through freezing temperatures, icy winds, and bitter storms, eating nothing the entire time.  It’s not until the egg hatches, and the mother returns from the two month feeding period, that she assumes the responsibility of rearing her chick while he feeds and recovers his strength.  He later rejoins his mate to share in the care of their young.  This is unique to the Emperor penguin.

Sui generis: unique, of its own kind; unique in its characteristics.

Parenting: is the process of promoting and supporting the physical, emotional, social, and intellectual development of a child from infancy to adulthood. 

My question is this:

What kind of adult do you want your child to become?

If you want a lazy, useless, unmotivated, dependent adult, then take an uninvolved and uninterested approach in parenting.  If you want an average, run-of-the-mill adult then take a passive and indulgent approach to parenting.

But if you want an outstanding, dependable, constant, loyal, unique adult, then take an interested and active approach in parenting.

If you chose to be active, interested and involved, you are going to be a little different than other parents today.  You will employ different parenting skills than the average parent.

Some things to consider in achieving exceptional and outstanding children may include:

  • Educating your children at home so as to shape their world view into a more Biblical view. 

  • Steering your children away from the common dating practices of today.

  • Requiring daily chores to enable a strong work ethic.

  • Teaching respect of authority by using endearments of Ma’am, Sir, Mr. and Mrs.

  • Guiding your children into Biblical truths, thus taking an active part in their spiritual lives.

  • Sparing NOT the rod, therefore NOT spoiling your children.

  • Closely monitoring the time your children spends with their peers, and limiting abundant exposure.

Sui generis.  You will stand out and others will not understand.  It will not be easy.

You will reap great rewards.  Others will notice your children and want the same results.  Your children will be a testament to your unique parenting style.

In the United States of America today, we have raised a generation of young people who just don’t care.  If we keep doing what we have been doing, we will keep getting what we have been getting.  A drive through your local fast food restaurant will give you all the evidence you need to experience the careless attitude and selfish mindset of the young people today.

Fathers, it is time to take the reins of our home; stand up for what is right, moral, and pure.  We will have to go against the flow.  Others may not understand.   It may even be that our own families do not understand, but we have to make a change.   Complacency in parenting may be prevalent in today’s society, but we do not have to fall into the same trap.

Mothers, it is time to come alongside your husband in raising God-fearing, respectable, unique children.  My wife is the wind beneath my wings.   She is the facilitator of our parenting goals.

You may feel like you are all alone, but you are not.  There are many parents that are parenting sui generis.  Seek them out for encouragement.  Seeing the fruit of their parenting will give you the courage to become a sui generis parent.

It is said that change begins with the one that stares back at you in the mirror. 

1 comment:

Jann Olson said...

Some really great advice. I enjoyed reading and totally agreed with the words of wisdom. Thanks for sharing with Share Your Cup. Happy to be a new follower.