I am greatly blessed to have Kasey at Walking Redeemed to write for our Parenting A La Mode series. She is a beautiful woman inside and out and has the tenacity to be raising twin toddler boys plus 5 more precious children. Kudos, Kasey and thanks again for being with us today!
Parenting is challenging, taxing, stressful and exhausting. It requires every ounce of one's self even during those times when you feel like you've got nothing left. It'll bring you to your knees, though it's definitely best if you begin there rather than simply ending up there out of desperation!
The Scriptures should be the lifeline of every parent. And God, Himself, the Counselor. How often are we sucked into parenting decisions simply because it's what everybody else is doing? Or because it's what everybody thinks we should be doing? Sadly, this happens far too often.
With the Word of God as our guide, we must be determined to raise mighty warriors for the Kingdom. It doesn't matter a bit if your child attends an Ivy League school and upon graduation lands a six-figure job, if he doesn't have a moral compass. Money will one day burn. Large, ornate houses will go up in flames. Luxury vehicles will turn to a pile of ash. Those things are temporal and should not be considered signs of success.
Success is instilling the kind of character that reflects Christ, so that no matter how much worldly success one has, it is the heart of the man people see...not the suit. It is rooting in a child the desire to live a life so hid in Jesus that He can't stand His conscience when he begins to stray.
But that doesn't happen on it's own.
- It takes determination and dedication.
- Grit and resolve.
- A thick skin and a strong back.
- And a connection with the living God so strong that your child can't help but to be drawn by it.
It begins with you!
According to the grace of God which was given to me, as a wise master builder I laid a foundation, and another is building upon it. But let each man be careful how he builds upon it. For no man can lay a foundation other than the one which is laid, which is Jesus Christ. Now if any man builds upon the foundation with gold, silver, precious stones, wood, hay, straw, each man's work will become evident; for the day will show it, because it is to be revealed with fire; and the fire itself will test the quality of each man's work. If any man's work which he has built upon it remains, he shall receive a reward. If any man's work is burned up, he shall suffer loss; but he himself shall be saved, yet so as through fire.
I hear from desperate, worn-down parents all the time who just have no clue what to try next. They feel as though they've been through the ringer and they are sure it's their kids who are turning that crank. The reality is, it is the devil. He is a master at making parents feel they aren't made of the right stuff. Or that they have been saddled with a strong-willed kid who is impossible to reach. He beats us up, disguised as our children, and then kick us while we're down. And once the erosion process begins we very easily believe the lies he's shouting in our ear.
- Crawl back to your Bible.
- Pray in earnest.
- Do not accept defeat.
The wisdom you need for the task can be found within those precious pages. Ask Him to open your heart and clear your mind, that you might absorb the message...
All Scripture is inspired by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, for training in righteousness; that the man of God may be adequate, equipped for every good work. 2 Timothy 3: 16-17
Set aside time to be in intentional communion with God and then guard it. Read from His Word and pray with a listening ear. Later when you are confronted with a parenting challenge, you will be plugged in to the right source. You'll hear that still small voice prompting you, giving wisdom when it is most needed. Just be sure you don't allow the connection to be shorted by too many distractions.
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