Hubby's Habits that Hinder Our Homeschooling

And no, it is not the silly faces he can make!

As I write the title to this article, my chest tightens and I sigh deeply to try and relieve the uncomfortable feeling.  My heart’s desire is to always encourage and 
inspire the readers of this blog 
for their journey’s sake.  
Yet I find myself in the midst of this dilemma.

Our whole home school day’s success begins with how much sleep everyone gets, including mama.  I think it is more noticeable because we are home and don’t have the big yellow bus honking its horn waiting to eat the children who enter its doors.

It is extremely difficult to pry my fingers from the covers, force my eyes to remain open, and throw my feet to the floor…every morning.  I've always been one that requires more sleep than others.  
The older I get (or something) the harder it is.  Actually, my dear hubby operates on a different “clock” than I do.  He likes to stay up very late and is able to operate on much less sleep for many more days.
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“Go to bed earlier” one might suggest.  If only it were that simple.  We live in a 1,100 square foot house with only one bathroom.  No one does anything without everyone else knowing about it.  Plus, there is just so much to do after the kids go to bed.  Right?

There-in lies the next “habit” that hinders our homeschooling.

Hubby likes to wind up his day with everyone (yes, all 7 of us) piled on the bed watching something together.  Depending on what time this gets started, depends on what time we are able to crawl into bed…and actually sleep!  During this time, I am usually writing, blogging, and catching up on social media.

Then there are the “Daddy Days” that we look forward to and love so much.  It’s those unexpected days when Daddy is off work.  When he is home, we don’t do school 
(book learning anyway!).  Our time is spent working on various projects with him.

  • ·        Cooking a huge breakfast together
  •          Cutting and splitting wood
  • ·        Vehicle maintenance
  • ·        House maintenance
  • ·        Yard work
  • ·        Pawn Shopping
  • ·        A trip to McDonalds is sure to fit in there somewhere!

Whatever it may be, Daddy will have many helping hands.

Especially with the littlest one!

Could I get upset at the school work that doesn't get accomplished?  Yes-sir-ee!  And I have more times than I would like to admit. 

I have asked myself more than once if there was a solution to this “problem”; 
these habits that hinder homeschooling.  
Guess what?  There is.
It’s called an attitude adjustment for the mama.

  • Instead of blaming hubby for everyone’s lack of sleep, I can be thankful for the time he likes to share and cuddle with us. 
  • I can be thankful that he chooses to watch mostly educational and informative shows on Netflix.

  • Instead of counting how many days we haven’t done school because Daddy was home, I can thank God for the memories made while we were together. 

Since Daddy looks forward to those days just as much as the kiddos do, I shouldn't taint them with my indifference.  We are privileged to have a daddy that wants to spend quality time with each child and does what he can to make that happen.

An attitude adjustment for this mama means 
turning “Hubby's Habits that Hinder Homeschooling” into 

“Meaningful Moments that Enrich Our Home Education”

Yeah.  I like the sound of that much better.

Are there any habits in your home that you feel are hindering your day? 

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Rashel said...

Does my attitude count as a habit? There are many days I wonder where in the world my attitude comes from because I know it isn't my heart's attitude. I'm learning my hormones greatly effect my attitude and I'm trying very hard to manage that.
We don't do bookwork when Daddy is home either, we just enjoy our time with him.

Kasey said...

What a blessing you are to not only your husband but to your entire family! By choosing to shift your perspective and focus on the good in his "habit" of loving his family in his own unique way, you are strengthening the family structure from the roots up! Thank you for sharing your struck a chord within my own!

Niki French said...

Rashel, I agree whole-heartedly about hormones affecting our attitudes! I am on the road to trying to figure that out, too!

Kasey, thank you for your encouragement to me today! It's not easy and definitely a work in progress! :)

Sylvia said...

I know how you feel. when our dad is home we don't get any work done either. Sometimes I have to cringe and bear it. One thing that has helped is to adopt an unschoolingish way of homeschooling. I am with you in not wanting to taint everyone's attitude too. Thanks for sharing your thoughts! I'm liking you on FB.

Laurel @Let's Go on a Picnic! said...

I always say I'm going to catch up on things on the weekend. But it's so much more fun spending time together as a family.

momstheword said...

What a lovely time you must all have together! And what a sweet hubby to want to be so involved in their lives. I love that (love the funny face he's making too, lol!)

I also love your post because your answer was unexpected, but I'm glad you said it. We can't change other people but with God's help, we can change ourselves and change our attitude.

Has he ever asked to teach one of their subjects or lessons? My hubby never wanted to do that so he never did it unless there was an emergency.

I have friends whose hubby's do the math lessons. I would have LOVED that, lol!

My hubby is a pastor and takes Fridays and Saturdays off. When the kids were younger we doubled up during the week so we could take Fridays off and hang out with daddy.

As they got into junior and senior high school it got harder to double up all the classes.

So they doubled where they could and had a light day on Friday.

My hubby has always gone to bed fairly early, so we had our daddy time earlier in the evening.

Thanks so much for linking up to "Making Your Home Sing Monday!" :)

Pamela said...

It's all about the attitude. I love how you faced the irksomeness of it and found a solution. When I think of how many times I said, "Watch your attitude" to my daughters I often wonder why I don't take my own advice more often.

Amanda said...

Oh my goodness, I am so often in need of an attitude adjustment too. Sometimes it's easier than others, but the fact that I am constantly praying that God will make me a woman of grace means that I have a LOT of opportunities to make that happen! Thanks for linking up to Desire to Inspire!

Susan said...

My husband always has a different agenda ; ) I used to fight it, and still do too many times - but like you, I have realized that everyone is so much more blessed just to enjoy Daddy and all the adventure his play brings!

Niki French said...

Thank you, Sylvia, and yes, we have adapted to an "unschoolingish way of homeschooling" sometimes, too!

Laurel, it is always more fun to be together and I am so thankful in the end.

Thanks, momstheword for letting us link up. My hubby doesn't teach any lessons per say, but he does a fine job as principal and is my go-to man. He is my rock and I love him so much.

Pamela, I think the same thing sometimes. I should practice what I preach more often.

Amanda, I am glad to have found your Desire to Inspire link-up. Praying for grace ends up coming out like praying for patience - doesn't it? Sometimes we wish we had prayed differently, but God will pull us through anything if we can stand the pull. :)

Susan, we DO love the adventures that Daddy brings! :)

Thank you all for stopping by and taking the time to bless me with your sweet comments!

Mrs. Sarah Coller said...

Yes! I have 100% been there when my husband was working nights. Now he's on days and we sure wish he was around to do all the fun stuff with us!

Thanks for linking up. I'll have the new party up later tonight!

Mrs. Sarah Coller