Letting Go So They Can Grow

Pain...excruciating pain...then extreme relief followed by unspeakable joy.  The doctor or midwife hands you a wet, pink, squishy bundle of absolute joy!  Before giving birth I could never have fathomed what a mother feels when holding her precious bundle for the first time.  It is absolute bliss.

Fast forward to the first time that precious little bundle demands her own way.  Excuse me?  What does this little creature have to be thinking?!  She is barely over one year old and letting me know with every fiber of her being that she wants to be her own person without anyone telling her how to do it! 

That is the way life begins.  The moment they are brought into this world, they begin their journey to be on their own.  As toddlers and preadolescents it is quite a bit easier to steer and guide children in the direction you want them to go. 

Then you hit the teenage years.  They have an immature mind with a fully mature mouth!  Put the two together and you get a loud mouth teenager that makes sense about half the time!  Thank the Lord not all teenagers are this way.  The mothers would all loose their sanity in the first two years of teenager-dom (pretty sure that's not a word!).

What am I trying to say?  The moment our children come into this world, we have to learn to let go of them.  It would be pretty silly to see a mom carrying her teenager around in a blanket forcing him to suck on a bottle.  That's absurd.  But it is so hard to let go.  They do grow up.  Though we would like to have them in our sight 24/7, there comes a time when we have to let them do some things on their own.  Sniff, sniff.  This is so hard to do.

If you are having a hard time letting go, let me encourage you.  If you have instilled in them a love for God and His Word, they will be okay.  If you have taught them life lessons by letting them work beside you, they will be okay.  If you have modeled Godly character in front of them, they will be okay. 

If you are having a hard time letting go and you have not taught them to love God and His word, I would begin to worry.  If they have had no experience with learning some life lessons, I might worry a little.  If you have modeled a pious and critical life in front of them, I would worry some more.  It's not too late to make some changes though!  That is the beauty of it.  Your children may carry some scars of a life lived in this way, but if they see a change in you, they will be positively affected by it.

Cover your children in prayer daily.  Did I say daily?  Yes, DAILY!  And maybe even more often than that.  They may make some poor decisions based on their immaturity, but God will be there with them.

I love my children so much.  I don't want to let them go.  I don't want them to get hurt.  I don't want them to experience pain.  But part of growing up means they will receive some hard knocks.  So this little pep talk was probably for myself just as it was for you.  If my children are covered in prayer, God will protect them.  My job is to let Him!


1 comment:

Pamela said...

Oh yes, I needed to read this! I hope I'm not sending them out with the negative example. Although far from perfect, grace was in abundance in my home. My last is still in college (living at home--she attends where my husband works--yay for free education) so I'm getting a taste of what it will be like. I tell my husband it's good I like him because it won't be long until it will just be us! Thank you for sharing this with me.