What If I'm Mad At My Parents?

Parents all have their quirks (even I do!).  Some are too loud, too quiet, too bossy, not bossy enough, dress like geeks or have no fashion sense at all.  It's a fact that you will get mad at your parents at some time or another.  No two people can live under the same roof and not get upset occasionally.  It's the beauty of having different personalities.  Guess what?!  Your parents probably got mad at their parents occasionally, too.  But you must remember it is important what you do when you get angry.  According to Ephesians 6:1-3 (I know you've heard it a million times, but hang in there with me), you still have to obey and respect them because you belong to the Lord and it's the right thing to do.  Being mad isn't a sin, but how you react can be.  Make sure you control your words and your actions, even when you're mad.  Be encouraged: Tomorrow is a new day and just as it says in Psalms "...His mercies are new each day...",  the morning brings a fresh new day and a "clean slate" so-to-speak for you and your parents! 

Don't hesitate to talk to them about it.  Ask them if you can play McDonald's Drive Thru with them.  They will definitely be curious.  Here's how it goes: 

Dad/Mom:  Welcome to (insert your family's name) Drive Thru.  May I help you?
You:  Yes, I'd like to talk to you about yesterday when...
Dad/Mom:  You'd like to talk to us about what happened yesterday that made you upset? (They must repeat what they heard you say in the above statement. If you are satisfied that they understand what you want to talk about then you should continue.)
You:  Yesterday, when ________ happened, what you said/did made me feel angry because...
Dad/Mom:  They must repeat what they heard you say and then ask, Would there be anything else?"
You:  It's up to you at this time if you have said all you want to say.

Then trade places and have them "drive thru" repeating their feelings.  This is a safe way to express how you feel without things getting out of hand.  You don't have to follow this rigidly, but it is a good start.  If you will notice that they heard you say is in bold twice.  This is because sometimes what you say, what you mean or what they heard gets lost in the transition.  Your parents really want to know how you feel and they can do a better job if you go about it in the right way.  Good luck!  Drop me a comment if this helps you.  I'd love to hear from you! 

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