Created To Be His Help Meet

All right ladies!  I've been praying for the Lord to open the doors for me to share with you some things pertaining to us as wives in particular, and all the while I have this venue at my finger tips.  So here goes.  I'd like to start blogging about the book "Created to be His Help Meet" by Michael and Debi Pearl. 

I'm just going to go through the book chapter by chapter discussing what they wrote and treat this just like a class I might teach.  I will refer to the book as "Created" and try my best to do it justice.  I have learned so much from this book and want to share it with you.  I would love to have you "follow" this book study  and feel free to leave comments on how it has helped you or your struggles with what I write.  I'm excited to see what God is going to do!

Disclaimer #1:  I do not to claim to be the perfect wife, just one striving to be the greatest help meet that I can!
Disclaimer #2: I did not come up with all of the information you will be reading.  I will take many excerps from the book "Created".
Please take the time to look up the scriptures that I only write the reference.  It will make this journey more enriching.

Chapter 1
God's Gift

A wise woman does not take anything for granted. 
She is thankful to be loved and seeks to make herself more lovely. 

We've probably discovered by this time that we didn't just marry Mr. Right and live happily ever after.  And considering that we are a selfish creature as well, we know that it would take a lot of effort to have a heavenly marriage.  A good marriage takes constant work at doing the right things all the time.  Never quit working on it! 

In Genesis 2:18 it says, "And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him."  And then in verse 22 it says God "brought her unto the man".  We can probably all quote Proverbs 18:22 where it says, "Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favor of the LORD". 

As a wife, we were created to fill a need, and are a good thing, a helper suited to the needs of a man.  This is our purpose for existing, we are equiped to be our man's helper.  We were creatred to make him complete, not to seek personal fulfillment parallel to him.

Adam was surely excited to wake from his sleep to find Eve wiating for him with open arms and a smiling face.  Does your husband share the same feelings of delight when he sees you in the morning?  Do you wake up each morning ready to make your hubby feel happy and blessed?  When you are a help meet to your husband, you are a helper to Christ.  When you honor and obey your husband, you are doing the same to God; just as when you dishonor your husband you dishonor God.

No matter who you are or what you may be gifted in, God intended that you be a suitable helper to your husband. (1 Cor.7:34)  Even if he seems undeserving.  God did not design us to do a better job than him.  It is far better that your husband do a poor job than for the job to be done well by you.  Your excellence as a help meet just might be God's plan for improving his leadership role in th family.  If you are constantly trying to take the lead roll, there will be lasting damage done that you cannot erase.  You roll as a perfectly fit helper does not mean you are inferior to the leader.  God made you to help your husband so you can make him more productive and efficient in everything he does. If he can trust you, he'll make you closest advisor as well as a host of other close things!

Prov. 12:4 says "A virtuous woman is a crown to her husband".  She does not give him a list of chores and demand things, but rather a readiness to please that motivates her to look around and see what she knows he would like to see done. 

Consider this:
1.  God's perfect will for my life is that I be a help meet to my husband.  I have a choice in how good my marriage will be. (1 Cor. 11:8-9)
2.  Make a new habit of being a helper to my husband.
3.  Get serious with God by looking up scriptures that relate to a woman of God and ask Him to work these attributes in your character:
Remember:  A good help meet will have a heart of service first to her husband, then to her children and as time allows to others.

What do you think?  Is this a bunch of "hog wash" like my dad used to say, or did it strike a chord in your heart?  I'd love to hear your comments!

"Created" Chapter 2

1 comment:

Homemakers Cottage said...

I LOVE this book, Sis. Niki! It changed my life. Glad to find your blog!

Kristy Howard